Annie (AKA Hey Terra!) has been around long enough to have experienced a lot of what Life can dish out. But, it hasn’t been so long that she's forgotten what it's like to be your age. Check out some of the thousands of email questions teens from around the world have sent to Terra. You may learn something useful from her answers:
BF/GF Relationships:
“All the guys are scared of me.”
Hey Terra,
Last year I wrote a lot of notes to a guy I liked. He showed everyone and now I'm afraid that all the guys are scared of me. How do I help them get over their fear of me?Stalker
Dear Stalker,
The guy was insensitive to show your notes to everyone, but you went overboard with a guy you didn't know well enough to trust. Hopefully you've learned your lesson.
As for the other guys, you don't know for sure WHAT they think of you. Since this whole thing happened "last year" I suggest you let it stay in the past. Chances are you are the only one remembering it today. If others do remember and have negative feelings toward you because of what you did, then you have to let people get to know who you are now. Without bringing up what happened, you need to show them that you are not the same person who was boy crazy and wrote those notes.
So relax, be yourself, and things will work out. (They always do, one way or another.)
In friendship,
Terra
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