Annie (AKA Hey Terra!) has been around long enough to have experienced a lot of what Life can dish out. But, it hasn’t been so long that she's forgotten what it's like to be your age. Check out some of the thousands of email questions teens from around the world have sent to Terra. You may learn something useful from her answers:
Abusive relationships:
“My ex won't leave me alone.”
Hey Terra,
My best mate was a boy and we went out and I finished it with him. Now everywhere I go he is following me and I'm starting to feel scared cause he's freaking me out by asking me all these weird questions like: "Will you sleep with me?" right in front of my boyfriend! And my boyfriend is threatening that we are going to split up if my ex doesn't leave me alone. I don't want me and my boyfriend to split up because of my ex.Jeez
Dear Jeez,
Your ex needs to hear in clear, direct language how you feel. Tell him "You have to stop following me around. You are harassing me and I'm not going to stand for it any more." Get in touch with the police if he doesn't stop.
I know that sounds extreme but this guy needs to know that you mean business and that he needs to respect your boundaries. Do NOT put up with this any more! OK?
As for your boyfriend, why is he blaming you for your ex's misbehavior? That just doesn't seem right at all.
In friendship,
Terra
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