Annie (AKA Hey Terra!) has been around long enough to have experienced a lot of what Life can dish out. But, it hasn’t been so long that she's forgotten what it's like to be your age. Check out some of the thousands of email questions teens from around the world have sent to Terra. You may learn something useful from her answers:
“I gave my friend a hand-job because I thought he liked me.”
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Hey Terra,
I do want a guy who respects me and loves me for who I AM! Well I told him no and he said "You won't do it cuz you're scared." All my ex bfs always play me. I'm tired of getting hurt. They're nice guys, I know that but I always get played. Can you please help me find a guy that will respect me and love me?Wondering
Dear Wondering,
If they "play" you then they aren't such "nice guys." Nice guys treat girls with the respect they deserve.
As for Mr. Please give me another hand-job, I'm very proud of you saying "No" and for telling the truth about what you want, "a guy who respects me and loves me for who I AM!" Brava!
When he said that you "won't do it cuz you're scared," that was his way of putting you down and trying to manipulate you into letting him use you again. I'm really glad you told him no. That guy should use his own hand because he sure doesn't care about the person attached to your hand!
I'm not a matchmaker, so I can't help you find a guy that will "respect you and love you." But don't worry about that. You'll meet the right guy when the time is right. And meanwhile, live your life and continue to make good choices that will make you feel proud of who you are.
You're on the right track now.
In friendship,
Terra
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