Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
“How can I work for peace?”
“Are we too much in love?”
Do you think war well ever stop or anything??? How can I help make world peace?
I hate war more then anything!!!!
Hoping for Peace
My gf and I have been together for just over 5 months, we are in college together and live only 100 yards away so its different than her previous dating experience. We are both deeply in love with each other. She comes from a bad background and it took a long time to get to the point were she really trusts me. And I trust her but she is a naturally flirtatious person and even though she has worked on it for me she still flirts a little too much, but that isn't even my question, sorry. Anyway I have clinical depression and in high school I was very shy but came out a little my senior year,...
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June 23, 2016
Sometimes our kids say they're ready for the next step toward independence and we totally agree. We celebrate the milestone, brief them on the house rules, making double sure we're all on the same page, then we let them go and hold our breath. When they stumble, we listen with compassion and as much patience as we can muster. We help them evaluate their mistakes and we hold them accountable. And they do better next time.
That's how we all learn.
But sometimes we're just not convinced they're ready, no matter how fiercely they lobby us. Then what? That's where this mom finds herself...
Is it okay for my 12-year-old to have a boyfriend if she seems emotionally ready? She seems pretty mature when it comes to situations like this, but is she too young? – Worried Mom
Important question. Glad she asked. Here's my response...
Dear Worried Mom:
Is this an abstract question coming from your daughter or does she already have a boyfriend and is trying to back-date the permission slip?
You ask "Is it okay?" and you sign your letter Worried Mom. That tells me you don't think it's okay. It doesn't matter what I think. She's twelve. You're her mom. You make the rules. But it's not always that simple, is it? Twelve-year-olds can be super persistent. More »