Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
July 16, 2014
Breaking up is hard to do. And painful. Hopefully, though, there were good times before the relationship tanked, so at least you've got some happy memories. On the other hand, if you're obsessed with someone who was never nice to you, well, that's just pain on pain. No one needs that.
Recently got an email from a girl in that dark place. Read on...
My heart aches for him and I really want to move, but I find myself checking his instagram, facebook, and all other social media just to see him. I cant let go, even though I want to so bad. I'm torn between wanting him to want me and wanting to forget about him completely. It's been almost a year. I just hate this obsession. What do I do? –So Stuck
Dear So Stuck,
The truth may hurt, but I've got to say it anyway. This guy doesn’t care about you, That's the way it is. You may wish things were different, but all the wishing in the Known Universe and beyond will not change fact.
Here’s something else that’s true: You deserve someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him. This guy is not The One. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you will find The One (Maybe during this coming school year! There’s an exciting thought!)
In the meantime, you've got to stop checking up on this guy. It’s a total waste of the summer and, more important, it's bringing you down. More »
From Terra’s Inbox
“My boyfriend hit me across the face.”
“It's no fun being the ugly duckling.”
I have a serious problem. I have a boyfriend who is 18 and I've been with him for more than a year. But the thing is he has been insulting me lately and wanting to touch me and I don't like that. I tell him to stop but he doesn't so he keeps saying that I'm a whore and a slut because I won't let him touch me. And he says I'm probably getting touched by other guys in my school and that isn't true.
Today he was screaming at me in the car and when we got home he hit me across the face. I told my mom and my brother but they told me to not worry. I'm already tired of the things he's doing and...
So this is my story, at my school I am in a group of 6 gorgeous girls (including myself would make us 7). But I don't find myself pretty at all. Usually I end up finding myself in situations where I can't be happy for my friends when they get complimented on their good looks, or when they change a hair style and everyone loves it.
Even though these girls are my close friends there are 2 girls within the group whom I am not so close with, and have personalities that can frankly get rather dull, and uninteresting but because of their good looks, everything seems to come easy to them. Also, I...
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