Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
July 16, 2014
Breaking up is hard to do. And painful. Hopefully, though, there were good times before the relationship tanked, so at least you've got some happy memories. On the other hand, if you're obsessed with someone who was never nice to you, well, that's just pain on pain. No one needs that.
Recently got an email from a girl in that dark place. Read on...
My heart aches for him and I really want to move, but I find myself checking his instagram, facebook, and all other social media just to see him. I cant let go, even though I want to so bad. I'm torn between wanting him to want me and wanting to forget about him completely. It's been almost a year. I just hate this obsession. What do I do? –So Stuck
Dear So Stuck,
The truth may hurt, but I've got to say it anyway. This guy doesn’t care about you, That's the way it is. You may wish things were different, but all the wishing in the Known Universe and beyond will not change fact.
Here’s something else that’s true: You deserve someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him. This guy is not The One. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you will find The One (Maybe during this coming school year! There’s an exciting thought!)
In the meantime, you've got to stop checking up on this guy. It’s a total waste of the summer and, more important, it's bringing you down. More »
From Terra’s Inbox
“Should I ask her out?”
“I have a crush on a guy who likes my best friend.”
There is this girl at my school. I have had a crush on her since the start of the year. Yet I am too scared to talk to her. I am afraid of rejection because that happened to me before. I know I shouldn't be, but I am. I am going to try to ask her out on Valentine's Day. That is if I have the courage. My question is, if I don't ask her out on Valentine's Day, what should I do?
Let me just get straight to the problem before I burst! There's this guy whose had a crush on my best friend since kindergarten right. So for the past 4 years she (my best friend and little sister) keep insisting that she has no feelings for this guy. I keep asking her to try a friendly date with him but she keeps shutting my ideas to get to know him better down! Now the real problem is I've got a crush on him! We e-mail each other, but we never actually hang out because we're busy. Now I don't know if I should tell my friend that I like him cause she might feel I'm moving in on her...
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