Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“How can I work for peace?”

 

“Are we too much in love?”

Hey Terra,

Do you think war well ever stop or anything??? How can I help make world peace?

I hate war more then anything!!!!

Hoping for Peace

 

Hey Terra,

My gf and I have been together for just over 5 months, we are in college together and live only 100 yards away so its different than her previous dating experience. We are both deeply in love with each other. She comes from a bad background and it took a long time to get to the point were she really trusts me. And I trust her but she is a naturally flirtatious person and even though she has worked on it for me she still flirts a little too much, but that isn't even my question, sorry. Anyway I have clinical depression and in high school I was very shy but came out a little my senior year,...

Read Terra’s Answer » Read Terra’s Answer »

Read more teen letters from Terra’s Inbox »

Annie’s Blog:
Is my 12-year-old daughter old enough to have a boyfriend?

June 23, 2016

What does she think it means to have a boyfriend? What does she think it means to have a boyfriend?

Sometimes our kids say they're ready for the next step toward independence and we totally agree. We celebrate the milestone, brief them on the house rules, making double sure we're all on the same page, then we let them go and hold our breath. When they stumble, we listen with compassion and as much patience as we can muster. We help them evaluate their mistakes and we hold them accountable. And they do better next time.

That's how we all learn.

But sometimes we're just not convinced they're ready, no matter how fiercely they lobby us. Then what? That's where this mom finds herself...

Dear Annie:

Is it okay for my 12-year-old to have a boyfriend if she seems emotionally ready? She seems pretty mature when it comes to situations like this, but is she too young? – Worried Mom

Important question. Glad she asked. Here's my response...

Dear Worried Mom:

Is this an abstract question coming from your daughter or does she already have a boyfriend and is trying to back-date the permission slip?

You ask "Is it okay?" and you sign your letter Worried Mom. That tells me you don't think it's okay. It doesn't matter what I think. She's twelve. You're her mom. You make the rules. But it's not always that simple, is it? Twelve-year-olds can be super persistent. More »


Find Annie Fox: Find Annie on Facebook Find Annie on Twitter Find Annie on Pinterest Find Annie on YouTube Find Annie on Google+ Find Annie on LinkedIn Find Annie on Goodreads Find Annie on Quora
What's New?
''The Girls Q&A Book on Friendship: 50 Ways to Fix a Friendship Without the DRAMA'' by Annie Fox, M.Ed., illustrated by Erica De Chavez Books & Apps for Teens
''Middle School Confidential 3: What's Up With My Family?'' iOS app ''Middle School Confidential 2: Real Friends vs. the Other Kind'' iOS app ''Middle School Confidential 1: Be Confident in Who You Are'' iOS app ''The Teen Survival Guide to Dating & Relating: Real-World Advice on Guys, Girls, Growing Up, and Getting Along'' by Annie Fox M.Ed.
''Middle School Confidential, Book 3: What's Up with My Family?'' by Annie Fox, Illustrated by Matt Kindt
''Middle School Confidential, Book 2: Real Friends vs. The Other Kind'' by Annie Fox M.Ed., Illustrated by Matt Kindt
''Middle School Confidential, Book 1: Be Confident in Who You Are'' by Annie Fox, Illustrated by Matt Kindt
''Too Stressed to Think? A Teen Guide to Staying Sane When Life Makes You CRAZY'' by Annie Fox, M.Ed. and Ruth Kirschner