Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“How can I tell if he has a gf without asking him?”


“Should I tell my parents that my sister may be thinking about killing herself?”

Hey Terra,

I love this boy in my class but he says he has a girlfriend. But he might being lying like me because I tell everybody that I have a boyfriend but I don't. How can I tell if he really has a girlfriend without asking him....????



Hey Terra,

I have a weird feeling that my sister wants to commit suicide, but I don't know what to do, and don't want to take action because if I'm wrong, it might ruin our sisterly relationship. I guess you could call me snooping, but I looked at her journal and all that I saw was negative. She said things such as, "Out of all the new scars I have created this past year," and "I wonder how I made it through another year, but I feel that it is not my time to go, even though the day draws near." And I'm scared. I don't want her to die, but I don't want me to be responsible for a wrecked...

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Annie’s Blog:
A Tale of Two Jars

September 16, 2015

Which jar are you filling up today? Which jar are you filling up today?

Imagine two empty glass jars. One labeled Friendliness. One labeled Hostility. Imagine each time you say something to someone (online or off) you must put a marble in one jar or the other. By the end of the day which jar has more marbles?

Getting along with each other has always been a major challenge on this planet. Each day, each of us can increase hostilities or increase feelings of friendship. It's really that simple.

Think about the two jars with this hypothetical situation:

A group of kids sit at a lunch table with one empty seat. A new kid comes over carrying a lunch tray and asks "Can I sit here?" For each choice, which jar gets a marble, Friendliness or Hostility?

Someone says "No way!" F or H

New Kid throws a french fry at someone. F or H

Someone lies and says, "Sorry, but I'm saving this seat for my friend." F or H

New Kid lies and says, "No problem." F or H

New Kid says, "I don't want to sit with you. You're mean." F or H

Someone says "Sure" and makes room. F or H

Someone frowns but doesn't move. F or H

Someone quickly puts her sweater on the empty seat. F or H

Someone says, "No weirdos at this table." F or H

Someone laughs. F or H

Someone feels bad, but says nothing. F or H

Someone says, "Don't be mean. Let her sit with us." F or H More »

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