Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“What does it mean when she flips her hair?”

 

“Is there any way that I can snag my crush?”

Hey Terra,

I wanted to start a conversation with this girl I like so when I saw her yesterday I asked "Was that you with your bf at the mall last Sunday?" I just wanted to see her reaction and to see if she has a bf. She gives me a weird confused look and says "No" but never mentions anything about a bf. So we start chatting, and she smiles, laughs, body towards me but head facing the other way cause she was waiting for a ride. All of sudden she flips her hair.

As I am new to this dating game, Is that good or bad?

Jr. John

 

Hey Terra,

I liked this guy last year, you could even call me obsessed. But I wasn't the only one, I was in "competition" with five other girls!!!! Thanks to my friends, the ENTIRE grade knew, even the guy himself.

The summer passed, I met new people, so when September rolled around and it was the first time I saw him in like three months. I didn't feel that love "sensation" (heart racing, faster pulse, irregular breathing), so it's clear to say I got over him. The guy knew it too. I didn't hurry to my next class to see him in the halls. I didn't stare endlessly at him in band and at lunch. You see,...

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Annie’s Blog:
No confidence and no boyfriend. Is there a connection?

May 25, 2017

Must be spring because my teen email is all about crushes. Most from middle schoolers. I won't bore you my history, but... occasionally I dream about my 7th grade crush. So believe me, I get romantic insanity. Either you're out-of-mind euphoric or in a hopeless funk. Sometimes feeling both within five minutes.

No one but you can un-do this negative self-talk, sister No one but you can un-do this negative self-talk, sister

This 7th grader is crushing hard. Slight problem: the guy is dating her best friend.

Hey Terra,

My best friend's new boyfriend happens to be my childhood crush. He and I were very close throughout elementary school. We even liked each other in the third grade. So her being with him doesn't feel right to me. I should have been his first kiss and his first girlfriend. Last year, in 6th grade, I liked him a lot but I got over him. Then this year I found out him and my bff liked each other the whole time! Most of my friends have boyfriends. I should have one too! I am very insecure and I need a boyfriend to feel confident about myself. What do I do to feel confident? Please Help.

-Insecure Girl

Dear Insecure Girl,

You say you got over this guy and maybe you did. But emotional attachments are tricky and sometimes you believe you're "over it" then, suddenly, your ex is in your face and in your heart again. Seeing your crush with your bff isn't easy. It's also not easy to see a bunch of your other friends coupled up when you're not. More »


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