Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

Annie’s Blog:
I have to be perfect in everything!

April 8, 2014

I'm trying hard, Dad, but I'm not perfect I'm trying hard, Dad, but I'm just not perfect

All parents want their kids to succeed in school. But what does the word "success" mean to you, as a student? Do you know? Is it all about getting a 4.0 GPA? Being accepted into a top-tier college? Getting a high-paying job so you can buy great clothes, an awesome car and (some day ) and equally amazing house? When it comes to actually defining "success" are you and your parents on the same page? If there's a possibility you're not and/or that you and your parents might need to to e-x-p-a-n-d your definitions, check out Challenge Success, where students, parents and schools are learning there are many many ways to be successful in life.

But when a parent's definition of success equals: "All A's and nothing less," life can become way more stressful than it needs to be. Take, for example, this email from a high school student who seems to be cracking up under the strain of his parents' pressure to be "perfect."

Hey Terra,

My parents are super successful and push me to be like them. Not only do I have get straight A's, I also have to get 100% on all tests. If I don't they take everything from me till I get them. More »

From Terra’s Inbox

“No one in my family really knows me.”

 

“Can genital touching and/or oral sex cause bleeding?”

Hey Terra,

I smoke I drink and do bad things and I don't know why. I'm so mad always. Right now I walked out on my mom to come to the library to get on the computer. She gets me soo frustrated.

My mom got a new boyfriend. I don't got a problem wit that. I just hate that she puts him before me. I told my mom to bring her cell phone so that I could call my sister in Mexico but she didn't. She left it to her boyfriend. How come she could stay out with her boyfriend and I can't? That's bulls***.

I also didn't get into the high school I wanted to so now I wanna drop out.

I told myself that I wouldn't smoke...

 

Hey Terra,

I'm a 19 year old female who just began an "active" sexual relationship with my boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years. We have not engaged in sexual intercourse but we do experience in oral Sex and have been for about 2 months. However, every time we experience it, I tend to bleed a little bit (spot) for a few days afterward. I figured this was normal the first two times because I've never had anything (not even as much as a tampon) inserted into my vagina. He is not rough by any means when his fingers are inserted into my vagina, he has even increased in his gentleness after we spoke about this. I...

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