Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“I need help figuring out what I am!”

 

“What's my mom's problem!?!?”

Hey Terra,

I need help trying to figure out if I'm straight, bi, or lesbian. I am very interested in guys a lot, and with girls I do get turned on by them when they're looking good. Before when I was younger (I'm 16 now) I remember I made out with about 2 girls, and a few years ago I had have oral sex with about 2 other girls. And sometimes I still feel like doing those stuff again. So hopefully you can help me figure out what I am. Thanx

Confused

 

Hey Terra,

I'm sick of my Mum. Take 2 minutes ago, I asked if I could go out on a bike ride with my friend, she said "NO!" I asked her why I couldn't because it was still light, and I said I would be back before dark. She answered with "I don't feel like letting you go out." What's her problem!?!?!?!?

Why Me?

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Annie’s Blog:
"Sometimes I get really angry!"

November 13, 2017

What are you looking at?

Our kids live in a faster, noisier, more stressed out world than the one we grew up in. That contributes to more people "losing it" more often. Not surprising kids may wonder if they'll grow up behaving as poorly as some of the adults they observe at home, at school, on TV. That was on the mind of this teen who recently reached out to me:

Teen: I get angry kind of easily and I’m afraid that I might abuse when I get older. Please help.

Annie: What makes you angry? Just certain things? Or everything and everybody?

Teen: Sometimes I just get angry because someone is bothering me and I ask them to stop and they don't stop so I get really angry. I get angry over little things sometimes, too.

Annie: Humans have lots of emotions. Sometimes we get angry over little things and bigger things. Frustration, annoyance, irritation… those are parts of anger. Emotions are just emotions. They come and go, right? We don’t always get to choose how we feel about someone or the situation we find ourselves in. You feel whatever you feel in the moment. But here's the thing, your emotions can't hurt other people, but your behavior can. Sounds like you’re worried you will have trouble controlling your behavior in the future. Is that it?

Teen: Yes. I worry about that. A lot.

Annie: The future doesn't exist. There is only now. This moment. But the choices you make, the way you act in this moment and the next one can lead to the kind of person you will become in the future. More »


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What's New?
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