Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“My boyfriend wants to fight my ex!”

 

“I don't want her to be mad at me.”

Hey Terra,

I need help! The reason is because my boyfriend wants to fight my ex-boyfriend! Lately, my ex been feeling on me and yesterday he tried to rape me! I told my boyfriend what's been going on and he's really really mad, I don't know what to do! I told him let me handle him but he said he should protect me and he said fighting is the way my ex can understand to leave me alone! I don't want him to fight and I made him promise me he wouldn't but I think he will. I told the principal what my ex does and they said they are going to handle it but still my ex gives me those looks and it's scary. I...

 

Hey Terra,

You said everything about fights with friends, but you didn't mention conflicts. My best friend and I get along really well. Everyone says we're twins. The only problem is recently I got a boyfriend. One weekend I planned to go on a double date with her and her boyfriend. Well she dropped out, because her mom changed her mind. I asked her if she minded if I hung out with my boyfriend and hung out with her another time. She was cool with it. For a while anyway. I got an E-mail from her saying that she didn't want to talk to me again and not to call her. And to stay away from her. Being the...

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Annie’s Blog:
How come I don't have a boyfriend yet?!

July 10, 2016

When is it my turn to be loved? When is it my turn to be loved?

If you really want a bf/gf, but don't have one, and everyone else does, it can bring you down. You may wonder, "What's wrong with me?" I totally remember feeling this way in high school. It sucked. Once you buy a ticket to ride that depressing train of thought, you'll assume you don't have enough of whatever you think you need to be loved. ("I'm not hot enough, not cool enough, not thin enough, not buff enough, not outgoing enough, etc. etc. etc.")

So I understand what's going on when I get an email like this one:

Hey Terra -

I shouldn't be upset about this but I am. I'm going to be 16 soon and I've never had a boyfriend or even had a guy ask me out. I'm worried I'll be unprepared for a real committed relationship and be forever alone. I really want to know what that teenager rush of young love feels like that so many of my friends have experienced. What do I do? - Ms. Loveless

Dear Ms. Loveless,

I understand where you’re coming from. But please don’t assume that teen relationships prepare you for “real” committed adult relationships based on mutual trust, respect, honesty, shared values, open communication. They rarely do. You need to be an adult to have an adult relationship. As intelligent and mature as you seem to be, you are still becoming an adult, not there yet. You are still a full-time student, still living in your parents' home, being supported and supervised by them. More »


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