Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
“I don't know why I don't want to go out with him.”
“My friend gets all the guys.”
There is this guy that likes me and I like but I don't want to go out with him. I don't know why I don't want to go out with him, I guess it's just I am afraid of getting hurt like my best friend did. She went out with him then they broke up. I like him for lots of reasons but one is because he is a real smooth sweet talker. So maybe it is just because he sweet talked me.
My best friend is absolutely gorgeous and I love her to bits but she gets all the guys cause she has confidence and I have lost all mines because of recent boyfriends and she really isn't helping me to get it back. I know it's not her fault but I get mad and cry a lot and she goes for all the guys I like and usually gets them and I just feel like an idiot for trying. She tells me I'm stunning and that every guy wants me, but I'm always second choice.
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February 8, 2015
We are so loving this current downpour in parched Marin. Feel like sending the rain gods a Valentine.
The big count down to V-Day has begun. Most of us have been brought up on the notion that Valentine's Day is for lovers. And, yeah, it is. But here's the thing, if you don't love yourself, it's gonna be hard to really love someone else. Also, if you don't love yourself, you're going to have trouble recognizing love coming at you... and an even tougher time accepting and savoring it.
That's why I'm writing about self-love today. Specifically, how hard it can be for tweens and teens to get excited about being who they are when so many of their peers, family members and The Media conspire to convince them they aren't "__________ enough." (Not thin enough, smart enough, cool enough, hot enough... not GOOD enough!) That's such monumental BS and yet, most middle and high school students buy it and dig right in with fork and spoon. Hell, most adults believe they're not good enough. Good enough for what?! That's what I'd like to know.
I got an email from a teen who was super upset because she isn't "tall enough". Read on...
I'm a 16 years old girl and only 5'1" tall. People always make fun of me specially guys. I sometimes cry. Before, I was really confident and I didn't mind being short, but now it really hurts me. My mother refused to take me to a doctor so he would give me some type of medicine to help with my shortness, although she knows how much I hate my height! More »