Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“I have sexual fantasies about being raped.”

 

“My mom hates my music!”

Hey Terra,

What I want to talk about is probably gonna sound crazy. I masturbate. I know that's normal. But I have these fantasies about things that I know in reality I wouldn't want happening to me. And I've been raped and sexually abused before... quite a few times by my ex. So I know what it's like... I know that if like anything happens like that to me again I'd be really scared obviously. But I don't know why I have fantasies about being treated that way. I told somebody about this before and they told me fantasies are just fantasies and that it doesn't matter what they are about. Do you think I...

 

Hey Terra,

I'm really into rock but my mom is kind of worried about me. Some of the artists I like to listen to scream loud!! When my mom hears that she starts yelling at me saying "Gosh, keep it down! We worship God not your devil songs!!!" I just get real upset but see I don't believe in the devil I believe in God!!! I don't want to leave rock. Come on! I'm growing up. What should I tell her?

Help Plz

KiKi

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Annie’s Blog:
"I'm jealous over my boyfriend's ex!"

March 31, 2016

Hey Terra,

Stop kissing her right now! Stop kissing her right now or I'm gonna do something you won't like!

I'm with this guy for like 6 months, he's my first boyfriend and my big love ( even if he's not my first I fell in love with)... I have a real problem, I'm jealous of his past. He lived so much with his ex and I want this relation to work out the best, but I don't know if he thinks the same. How can I get over this jealousy? It's driving me crazy! - Jealousy Sucks

Dear Jealousy Sucks -

It sure does! But you don't have to let jealousy control you or your relationships.

You can't change your boyfriend's relationship history: who he has been with, how they felt about each other, and what they did. That's over. Done. Same with your past crushes. (Yes, I’m talking about the first person you fell in love with.)

The only place we can live is right now. If we're not here, we're no where at all. (Think about that the next time you space out imagining your guy with his ex.)

Look, either this relationship is what you and this guy both want now or it isn’t. If it turns out the relationship doesn’t last, for whatever reason, then so be it. Take what you learned into your next relationship and do better. But if you can not “get over” your jealousy, then you will be equally jealous of the next guy’s ex or exes. More »


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