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Terra (aka Annie Fox)
“I don't want to play my bf, but I feel tempted.”
“When I wouldn't have sex with him again he dropped me.”
I have a real big problem. I have a man that I love with all my heart but I have other guys that are after me. I mean I don't listen to them but sometimes I'm tempted to see the possibilities, but I don't want to play my boyfriend because he loves me and I know that he deserves better than me cheating on him. So what do you think I should do so I can be able to control the need to look at other possibilities?
Tempted to Cheat
This may sound a little blunt or straightforward, but I am in desperate need of some answers from someone I don't know who can give me advice. Here's the story, I am so depressed that I cry constantly. I Lost my virginity to a "friend" who I had only really known for 2 months. I wasn't depressed then but he completely dropped me when he tried to have sex with me again and I wouldn't let him. I have to see this person every single day of my life. Sometimes he acts like he wants a relationship or wants to start talking to me again because of the way he looks at me and he even follows me when...
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February 7, 2016
I've been experiencing some moral differences with my parents. I've always idolized my them, but recently, I've realized I simply can't agree with some of their ideas.
On a recent trip we took public transportation and most of the people riding with us were African Americans. My mom kept whispering derogatory racist remarks to me and my sister. And just a few days ago, my mom argued that a person's skin color and other aspects of appearance are a direct link to the quality of the person.
I love my parents, but it makes me confused when I disagree so vehemently with people I care about. Racism is a big issue and I hate to see my parents contribute to it.
How should I respond when they bring up or argue this topic again? Is debating with them a viable solution? – Confused
I am very proud of you for recognizing racist remarks when you hear them and knowing it's not ok to talk like that. Even if these remarks come from someone you love and idolize (like your parents) a racist comment is still a racist comment! You're right. Racism is a big issue and you have chosen to be part of the solution, not the problem. I admire you for taking that role.
So how should you respond when parents try to argue their ignorant perspective? Great question! To discover the answer you first need to examine the answer to this question: “When it comes to other people’s attitudes, opinions, feelings, thoughts and behavior what power do I have?” You sound like an extremely intelligent individual so you probably don’t need me to tell you that you have no power over what others think or feel or do. More »