Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
“I have to come out to my parents.”
“Can drinking alcohol make a guy's sperm not able to get a girl pregnant?”
My problem is, I like girls. Why is that a problem? Because I'm a girl. I'm fine with that, and I'm out to my friends (but not my parents). The problem enters when trying to find someone to date. I live in a small town, and there is no gay/lesbian group. Start one?
No way. I have to come out to my parents first, and that is going to be a long and laborious process. I'm 15, so I can't exactly go to any clubs in neighboring cities. I don't know what to do -- it's annoying me because I've been single for a very long time, and on top of that, I need someone that can identify with me. Most of my...
My friends were talking so I wanted to clear this up... Does a mans cum water down if he has been drinking?? Is it possible that a man cums in you but because he has been drinking you don't have to worry about getting pregnant??
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July 10, 2016
If you really want a bf/gf, but don't have one, and everyone else does, it can bring you down. You may wonder, "What's wrong with me?" I totally remember feeling this way in high school. It sucked. Once you buy a ticket to ride that depressing train of thought, you'll assume you don't have enough of whatever you think you need to be loved. ("I'm not hot enough, not cool enough, not thin enough, not buff enough, not outgoing enough, etc. etc. etc.")
So I understand what's going on when I get an email like this one:
Hey Terra -
I shouldn't be upset about this but I am. I'm going to be 16 soon and I've never had a boyfriend or even had a guy ask me out. I'm worried I'll be unprepared for a real committed relationship and be forever alone. I really want to know what that teenager rush of young love feels like that so many of my friends have experienced. What do I do? - Ms. Loveless
Dear Ms. Loveless,
I understand where you’re coming from. But please don’t assume that teen relationships prepare you for “real” committed adult relationships based on mutual trust, respect, honesty, shared values, open communication. They rarely do. You need to be an adult to have an adult relationship. As intelligent and mature as you seem to be, you are still becoming an adult, not there yet. You are still a full-time student, still living in your parents' home, being supported and supervised by them. More »