Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“He's telling my secrets!”

 

“My bff's bf is in a gang.”

Hey Terra,

My best friend who I've known forever always wants to listen to my stories and so I tell him everything. But lately he's been ignoring me and if I do tell him my secrets he will tell his rude friends and they will tell everyone. Does he not like me as a friend anymore? Or is he getting tired of me doing all the talking? I always ask him what's new and he never says anything so I can't let him talk to me because he doesn't want to. What should I do?

Help

 

Hey Terra,

My best friend is going out with a guy in a gang and I don't like him because of that and because he's very mean and gets into trouble a lot and my friend doesn't care. She just really really likes him and he's not even her type of guy. What can I do to tell her that me and a lot of people don't like him neither.

Seeing Red

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Annie’s Blog:
No confidence and no boyfriend. Is there a connection?

May 25, 2017

Must be spring because my teen email is all about crushes. Most from middle schoolers. I won't bore you my history, but... occasionally I dream about my 7th grade crush. So believe me, I get romantic insanity. Either you're out-of-mind euphoric or in a hopeless funk. Sometimes feeling both within five minutes.

No one but you can un-do this negative self-talk, sister No one but you can un-do this negative self-talk, sister

This 7th grader is crushing hard. Slight problem: the guy is dating her best friend.

Hey Terra,

My best friend's new boyfriend happens to be my childhood crush. He and I were very close throughout elementary school. We even liked each other in the third grade. So her being with him doesn't feel right to me. I should have been his first kiss and his first girlfriend. Last year, in 6th grade, I liked him a lot but I got over him. Then this year I found out him and my bff liked each other the whole time! Most of my friends have boyfriends. I should have one too! I am very insecure and I need a boyfriend to feel confident about myself. What do I do to feel confident? Please Help.

-Insecure Girl

Dear Insecure Girl,

You say you got over this guy and maybe you did. But emotional attachments are tricky and sometimes you believe you're "over it" then, suddenly, your ex is in your face and in your heart again. Seeing your crush with your bff isn't easy. It's also not easy to see a bunch of your other friends coupled up when you're not. More »


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