Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
“Why won't he call me back?”
“My boyfriend doesn't want to meet my parents and his mom doesn't like me.”
There's this guy I like and I gave him my number and told him to call me but he didn't. I keep texting him asking him why he didn't call and he didn't say anything. What does that mean? Should I call him and ask him why he doesn't call me?
I've been in this relationship with this guy for about 10 months. And my parents want him to meet them but the only problem is he doesn't want to meet them. So people tell me that I should break up with him but I love him very much. I don't know how to tell my dad that I love someone who doesn't want to meet him without hurting his feelings.
I also have a problem with my boyfriend's mom because she doesn't like me. Every time me and my boyfriend talk on the phone she calls me names. I would really like you to help me on this problem if you can. PLEASE! Because I am really confused.
What a Mess!
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July 10, 2016
If you really want a bf/gf, but don't have one, and everyone else does, it can bring you down. You may wonder, "What's wrong with me?" I totally remember feeling this way in high school. It sucked. Once you buy a ticket to ride that depressing train of thought, you'll assume you don't have enough of whatever you think you need to be loved. ("I'm not hot enough, not cool enough, not thin enough, not buff enough, not outgoing enough, etc. etc. etc.")
So I understand what's going on when I get an email like this one:
Hey Terra -
I shouldn't be upset about this but I am. I'm going to be 16 soon and I've never had a boyfriend or even had a guy ask me out. I'm worried I'll be unprepared for a real committed relationship and be forever alone. I really want to know what that teenager rush of young love feels like that so many of my friends have experienced. What do I do? - Ms. Loveless
Dear Ms. Loveless,
I understand where you’re coming from. But please don’t assume that teen relationships prepare you for “real” committed adult relationships based on mutual trust, respect, honesty, shared values, open communication. They rarely do. You need to be an adult to have an adult relationship. As intelligent and mature as you seem to be, you are still becoming an adult, not there yet. You are still a full-time student, still living in your parents' home, being supported and supervised by them. More »