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Terra (aka Annie Fox)
“I think my dad is watching porn!”
“My mom never said I love you.”
I think my dad is looking at porn and it is really grossing me out. I'm not sure what to do. If I talk to him about it then it would just make me uncomfortable. Any suggestions?
I'm so confused about life. I hate all my family because they think I'm a thief but I'm not. They really hurt me. They don't treat me right. When I tell people about this they say that it is not true. You know that my mom never said I love you to me and I'm 15!
Right now I don't know what to do. I'm just so confused it makes me cry all the time. I try to tell them that I don't steal but they don't listen to me. You know if there was an accident and I had a chance to save a group of people, it would never be my family. I would choose a group of strangers. Please tell me what to do. Whatever...
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February 7, 2016
I've been experiencing some moral differences with my parents. I've always idolized my them, but recently, I've realized I simply can't agree with some of their ideas.
On a recent trip we took public transportation and most of the people riding with us were African Americans. My mom kept whispering derogatory racist remarks to me and my sister. And just a few days ago, my mom argued that a person's skin color and other aspects of appearance are a direct link to the quality of the person.
I love my parents, but it makes me confused when I disagree so vehemently with people I care about. Racism is a big issue and I hate to see my parents contribute to it.
How should I respond when they bring up or argue this topic again? Is debating with them a viable solution? – Confused
I am very proud of you for recognizing racist remarks when you hear them and knowing it's not ok to talk like that. Even if these remarks come from someone you love and idolize (like your parents) a racist comment is still a racist comment! You're right. Racism is a big issue and you have chosen to be part of the solution, not the problem. I admire you for taking that role.
So how should you respond when parents try to argue their ignorant perspective? Great question! To discover the answer you first need to examine the answer to this question: “When it comes to other people’s attitudes, opinions, feelings, thoughts and behavior what power do I have?” You sound like an extremely intelligent individual so you probably don’t need me to tell you that you have no power over what others think or feel or do. More »