Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

Annie’s Blog:
I have to be perfect in everything!

April 8, 2014

I'm trying hard, Dad, but I'm not perfect I'm trying hard, Dad, but I'm just not perfect

All parents want their kids to succeed in school. But what does the word "success" mean to you, as a student? Do you know? Is it all about getting a 4.0 GPA? Being accepted into a top-tier college? Getting a high-paying job so you can buy great clothes, an awesome car and (some day ) and equally amazing house? When it comes to actually defining "success" are you and your parents on the same page? If there's a possibility you're not and/or that you and your parents might need to to e-x-p-a-n-d your definitions, check out Challenge Success, where students, parents and schools are learning there are many many ways to be successful in life.

But when a parent's definition of success equals: "All A's and nothing less," life can become way more stressful than it needs to be. Take, for example, this email from a high school student who seems to be cracking up under the strain of his parents' pressure to be "perfect."

Hey Terra,

My parents are super successful and push me to be like them. Not only do I have get straight A's, I also have to get 100% on all tests. If I don't they take everything from me till I get them. More »

From Terra’s Inbox

“I did something with my girlfriend that I feel guilty about.”

 

“Is it lust or love?”

Hey Terra,

I was with my girlfriend one night, and she asked if she could give me oral sex. I finally let her do it, and it felt really good. Now, I'm a normal, church going type of guy, and have a lot of guilt about the whole situation. What should I do?

Desperately

 

Hey Terra,

Can you tell me if it's lust or love?

I usually have a hard outward demeanor which I adopted after my father died and I basically never let it down in public to anyone. But I go to my best mate's house and his sister is wandering around the house being a typical female and I get all mushy and she can ask me to do anything for her except hurt anyone.

But when she talks to me her demeanor somehow changes around me and she glances at me every now and then. I try to catch her doing it but she snaps her head away as if she saw a fly fly by her head. When I'm not in the same area as her she's on...

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