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Terra (aka Annie Fox)
“I'm 13 and this 17 year old guy keeps asking me out.”
“My friend smokes pot all the time.”
I have a crush that is 17 years old and I am only 13. My mom really likes him and his family. And his family really gets along with mine. I think he likes me and I really like him. He asked me out maybe 3 times but I didn't say yes... I wanna go out with him but I don't! I really love him! Why do you think?
I'm really worried about my friend. She is almost 14 and is having sex almost every day with men as old as 20. She smokes pot all the time, and she also smokes cigarettes and hard drugs such as mushrooms and ecstasy. We used to be best friends, but she moved away and we grew apart. After her younger sister of 7 passed away, she changed. She started having sex when she was 12 and her behavior has gotten worse and worse. I'm really worried about her, and she needs help. Could you please give me advice on what I should do? I'm the only one who is willing to do something about it.
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March 31, 2016
I'm with this guy for like 6 months, he's my first boyfriend and my big love ( even if he's not my first I fell in love with)... I have a real problem, I'm jealous of his past. He lived so much with his ex and I want this relation to work out the best, but I don't know if he thinks the same. How can I get over this jealousy? It's driving me crazy! - Jealousy Sucks
Dear Jealousy Sucks -
It sure does! But you don't have to let jealousy control you or your relationships.
You can't change your boyfriend's relationship history: who he has been with, how they felt about each other, and what they did. That's over. Done. Same with your past crushes. (Yes, I’m talking about the first person you fell in love with.)
The only place we can live is right now. If we're not here, we're no where at all. (Think about that the next time you space out imagining your guy with his ex.)
Look, either this relationship is what you and this guy both want now or it isn’t. If it turns out the relationship doesn’t last, for whatever reason, then so be it. Take what you learned into your next relationship and do better. But if you can not “get over” your jealousy, then you will be equally jealous of the next guy’s ex or exes.