Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“I'm having a horrible time getting over my ex boyfriend.”

 

“I can't get a boyfriend!”

Hey Terra,

Hi, I am having such a horrible time getting over my ex boyfriend. this situation might sound ridiculous but here it goes... I was in a relationship for 10 months, he said he was 22 and I was 15. We were together all the time and I fell in love with him and I thought he loved me back just the same. About 5 months later I found out he lied about his age and he was 36 yrs old. I felt betrayed and lied to, but he cried to me saying he loved me still and to forgive him so I did.

So we snuck around for the next 5 months behind my mom's back. And 3 weeks ago she caught us on the phone together...

 

Hey Terra,

I have a problem. I am ugly... Well, not that ugly, but I think that I am ugly. All my friends have boyfriends, but I don't. I am in 8th grade and still have not been able to get a boyfriend! I need your help PLEASE!!!

Ugly boyfriendless girl

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Annie’s Blog:
"I'm never going to win!"

August 3, 2017

What's the use? What's the use?

We all want our opinions and feelings respected, especially by the people we care about most. A guiding rule for a healthy relationship (the only kind worth having) is: "I will respectfully try to understand where you're coming from and you will do the same for me."

Doesn't always work that way. Sometimes we're too upset to be respectful so we do things we later regret. Sometimes others disrespect us and we're too embarrassed or discouraged to speak up.

When it feels like nobody treats you with respect, what then? Do you have fight with everyone? Or is it better to just accept it? That's what this teen wants to know.

Teen: When I hang out with my friends they do PE-related things. I act like everything is okay, but they know I suck at that kind of stuff. Still they always hold obstacle courses, running races and monkey bar challenges. It's as if they do it to mock me.

Next, my parents. If I get anything below B+ on a quiz or test, they don't bother noticing me. What's worse is that when my twin sister gets something below a B+, they offer to help her.

Lastly, my twin sister. She is intolerable. She has successfully managed to steal my friends by lying. Every time I tell her to stop, she acts like I am bullying her. To others, she seems sweet, but she is sociopathic towards me. Except when she has no one else to hang out with. Then I'm her fallback. I try and stand up to it, but my parents have her back. It's as if they have taught me a silent rule: "Don't try to stand up for yourself because you are never going to win these battles." So I have to put up with it. More »


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