Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
July 16, 2014
Breaking up is hard to do. And painful. Hopefully, though, there were good times before the relationship tanked, so at least you've got some happy memories. On the other hand, if you're obsessed with someone who was never nice to you, well, that's just pain on pain. No one needs that.
Recently got an email from a girl in that dark place. Read on...
My heart aches for him and I really want to move, but I find myself checking his instagram, facebook, and all other social media just to see him. I cant let go, even though I want to so bad. I'm torn between wanting him to want me and wanting to forget about him completely. It's been almost a year. I just hate this obsession. What do I do? –So Stuck
Dear So Stuck,
The truth may hurt, but I've got to say it anyway. This guy doesn’t care about you, That's the way it is. You may wish things were different, but all the wishing in the Known Universe and beyond will not change fact.
Here’s something else that’s true: You deserve someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him. This guy is not The One. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you will find The One (Maybe during this coming school year! There’s an exciting thought!)
In the meantime, you've got to stop checking up on this guy. It’s a total waste of the summer and, more important, it's bringing you down. More »
From Terra’s Inbox
“I just don't feel that we belong together.”
“I told my bf I'd do a threesome with him.”
Recently me and my guy have recently entered a "long-distance" relationship and it's been ok so far, but I have no clue why I'm feeling like this all of a sudden. I periodically have these gut feelings that we won't last. It's such a terrible feeling. Why? I've done nothing wrong. He's done nothing wrong. I just don't feel that we belong together. It's not like I'm gonna up and do something crazy, like cheat on him, but I feel so bad because of these feelings. As much as I say to myself that I have to have more faith and believe in the relationship, I feel so naive because these feelings...
I'm naturally just an emotional person. I need to tell you what's going on so that I know if I'm overreacting or not. I told my boyfriend that I would have a threesome with him. Well, I was comfortable with it as long as I was in charge and that I would look for the girl. Well I found out that girls have been IMing him and he says he checks to see if they're bi first and then he talks to them. But it just hurt me cuz I don't want him to talk to anyone else. I'm so insecure and I don't want him doing that. We ended up fighting and hanging up the phone cuz I just don't like it, and he feels...
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