Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“Not one guy has ever asked me out!”

 

“Our friend's bf is a jerk!”

Hey Terra,

I'm in 8th grade and a lot of my friends have boyfriends. However, I've never had a boyfriend in my life. And I mean NEVER. How pathetic; not ONE GUY at school has talked to me this school year, except for my next-door neighbor. And the school year is half over! The annoying thing is that I've done some modeling. But most guys don't know that and I feel that if they knew that they would change their minds about me. Also, people say I am really funny, outgoing, smart, and sweet. I feel there is something wrong with me. I cry myself to sleep every night over my crush because my friends asked...

 

Hey Terra,

My friend is in a really bad situation. Her boyfriend calls her a whore, wont let her spend time with anyone and throws fits if she talks to another guy. All of us, her friends are worried about her. He has even told her he would beat the crap out of her if she was a guy. The worst part of all is that she thinks he quit doing drugs, drinking, etc. for her. Everyone has told her that this isn't true. She claims she loves him, and thinks we are just jealous, or don't really know him. Seeing him do that stuff is enough proof for me. I just want to know what I can do to get her to see how bad...

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Annie’s Blog:
How come I don't have a boyfriend yet?!

July 10, 2016

When is it my turn to be loved? When is it my turn to be loved?

If you really want a bf/gf, but don't have one, and everyone else does, it can bring you down. You may wonder, "What's wrong with me?" I totally remember feeling this way in high school. It sucked. Once you buy a ticket to ride that depressing train of thought, you'll assume you don't have enough of whatever you think you need to be loved. ("I'm not hot enough, not cool enough, not thin enough, not buff enough, not outgoing enough, etc. etc. etc.")

So I understand what's going on when I get an email like this one:

Hey Terra -

I shouldn't be upset about this but I am. I'm going to be 16 soon and I've never had a boyfriend or even had a guy ask me out. I'm worried I'll be unprepared for a real committed relationship and be forever alone. I really want to know what that teenager rush of young love feels like that so many of my friends have experienced. What do I do? - Ms. Loveless

Dear Ms. Loveless,

I understand where you’re coming from. But please don’t assume that teen relationships prepare you for “real” committed adult relationships based on mutual trust, respect, honesty, shared values, open communication. They rarely do. You need to be an adult to have an adult relationship. As intelligent and mature as you seem to be, you are still becoming an adult, not there yet. You are still a full-time student, still living in your parents' home, being supported and supervised by them. More »


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