Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“I really like my teacher!”

 

“I freeze up when I try to ask her out.”

Hey Terra,

I'm 18 and a senior at the local H.S. and I plan on joining the military soon. I have never expressed my feelings to anybody such as a doctor, counselor, etc., so this is my first time talking with anybody other than my family... I was raised by a strict family and I grew up more mature than any child. Still to this day I am mature for my age. The other thing is that I also look older than I do. I guess that it's just the way that I dress, wear make-up, talk, and present myself. Over the years, I have dated several guys, several good looking men, I guess I should say. Mostly the guys I...

 

Hey Terra,

I know that this girl that I am in love with likes me. I just don't know how to ask her out. I freeze up and don't know what to say. I really love her and I would do anything in my power for her. Can you please give me some tips on what to say to her. I would really appreciate it.

Frozen

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Annie’s Blog:
"My friend's mom bullies her!"

April 19, 2017

What did I do to deserve such rude and disrespectful kids?!

Bullying prevention begins at home. A child's propensity for being aggressive and/or putting up with aggressive behavior from others may begin at home as well. As this email suggests, however, rushing to judgment about what's going on in someone else's family, isn't helpful.

Teen: My best friend's mom is always in a bad mood. She's so rude and unfair! She always grounds my friend for the simplest things. When I'm at my friend's house her mother is rude to me and lectures me. I try to invite my friend over, but her mom always has an excuse why she can't come. What do I do? :(

Annie: I can tell you've got a good heart because you really care about your friend. I'm sure she values the friendship and really appreciates having you in her life. Your question is a great one: "What can you do if a friend’s mom, dad, stepdad, etc. isn’t being kind or fair to them?”

Here’s the thing, it’s almost impossible to tell what’s actually going on inside of someone else’s family. Suppose, for example, you and your mom are at the supermarket. And let's say you are in a bad mood because a) you are hungry and b) you have a lot of homework plus a test to study for and c) one of your best friend’s was rude to you right after school and you're freaking out that she may not be your friend any more. More »


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