Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“I really want a girlfriend but I always get rejected.”

 

“My friend acted like a jerk and he refuses to apologize.”

Hey Terra,

I'm a 15 old guy and I'm still a single (?!). Ever since 8th grade I really wanted to be in a relationship because I really want to enrich my life and I really want to be with someone and share feelings and secrets and also we can support each other. The problem is that I'm not a popular guy and I'm rejected by many people at school (I used to be an outcast and I always got picked on and bullied for no reason). I've asked girls out a couple of times but they all rejected me.

Blacktrooper

 

Hey Terra,

A couple of months ago. I had gone to my room to change, and had forgot to lock the door. One of my guy friends walked in on me luckily I was holding a pair of pants in front of me and was covered up. I had no pants on at the time. He closed the door and walked away. That sounds decent enough but then he reopened the door and even though I repeatedly told him not to he pulled the pants away. and saw me in my underwear. I was outraged and told him how I felt. He refused to apologize for "that" and I haven't been speaking to him for four months. But he still tries sometimes to get my...

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Go on! Love yourself. There's so much that's 'right' with you.

February 8, 2015

Unchain my heart to love myself more Unchain my heart to love myself more

We are so loving this current downpour in parched Marin. Feel like sending the rain gods a Valentine.

The big count down to V-Day has begun. Most of us have been brought up on the notion that Valentine's Day is for lovers. And, yeah, it is. But here's the thing, if you don't love yourself, it's gonna be hard to really love someone else. Also, if you don't love yourself, you're going to have trouble recognizing love coming at you... and an even tougher time accepting and savoring it.

That's why I'm writing about self-love today. Specifically, how hard it can be for tweens and teens to get excited about being who they are when so many of their peers, family members and The Media conspire to convince them they aren't "__________ enough." (Not thin enough, smart enough, cool enough, hot enough... not GOOD enough!) That's such monumental BS and yet, most middle and high school students buy it and dig right in with fork and spoon. Hell, most adults believe they're not good enough. Good enough for what?! That's what I'd like to know.

I got an email from a teen who was super upset because she isn't "tall enough". Read on...

I'm a 16 years old girl and only 5'1" tall. People always make fun of me specially guys. I sometimes cry. Before, I was really confident and I didn't mind being short, but now it really hurts me. My mother refused to take me to a doctor so he would give me some type of medicine to help with my shortness, although she knows how much I hate my height! More »

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